Reflections Of A Desi Mom

-I am not doing enough! -Am I giving enough nutrition to my child? -Shall I continue/quit with my job? -How will I afford the daycare/nanny if I quit my job? -I am around my child too much as a SAHM! -I have no time left to do anything of my own! -Am I eating healthy enough to keep lactating? -I don't have any/enough help! -If only I can have more help, I can spend more time with my baby/child? -Helper/Nanny/Mom/MIL is a great help, but are not doing it how I want to do! -Why am I expected to do everything for my child and still being told You cannot manage alone? -What is with all the criticism? -If child bearing takes a village - where will I find it??? All of these and many such thoughts cross a young mother's mind these days.. Unfortunately none of the parenting or baby books and websites prepare us to answer any of these questions. 😐  But all of these are absolutely NORMAL.  Sometimes the well meaning and loving ladies in our lives too don't anticipate these challen...

It has been a long long time I wrote a happy, cheerful post.  Not that I am continuously being unhappy or sad about things.. but more often than not, unpleasant things keep coming my way.  Yes, absence of ample sunshine and exciting activities derails me from my happy-go-lucky sense in this season... but positive things keep me going usually.  A couple of years back I fought depression just around about this time. The factors that helped me wade my way through and back to sanity are the same factors that are so unpleasant this time around.  Impossible? No. I have always felt life is very relative. What is Ok to 1 person can be horrible to another and what is slightly uncomfortable to 1 being can pose profound sadness in another person's life.  Sometimes I feel, I was just happy being ignorant. Happy that there was so much positivity around. Happy that problems were there but I was willing to deal with them head-on. And for more rea...

Last week - one of the harder mornings - I woke up reading this headline in my feed.. i-love-you-enough-to-not-give-you-everything-you-want It woke me up in the way my alarm cannot. "How come my thoughts were echoing in my feed without me writing anything so far?" were my thoughts in the half awakened state.  I had to re-read the article couple of times to comprehend that the writer has said pretty much everything that most parents do or think. At least the ones I know of.  At the same time, I also know of parents who don't seem to believe in the funda anymore.  Ok - for those who didn't have the patience to read the above article (I will take it as a compliment 😉 'cos you are so much keen on reading my post 😄 ) .. but the topic today is - I will Not give Everything my child WANTS.  Our generation is a lot different than our forefathers.  We don't believe in only fulfilling needs these days.  Our wants play a very impor...